How to make a happy marriage

A satisfactory marriage will bring good values to our life, but it will be an extremely difficult task for you to fulfill. According to the study of some psychological and sexual researchers, to be successful in a marriage, both you and your partner have to avoid the factors that can destroy your marriage, and always keep these "keys" if you want a happy family:

1. Before marriage:

-You need to know each other thoroughly to avoid illusions. On the other hand, marriage should be the result of true love, do not turn marriage into a sale or barter.

- You need to learn and arm yourself with the knowledge of nurturing love and discuss with wise, experienced people  to learn how to live in harmony with your partner and resolve disputes in your family.

2. During marriage:

2.1. Always communicate and exchange information with each other

Keeping  everything inside  your mind only makes you suffer and slowly gnawing your mind to an extend that it can really hurt the relationship of your marriage, so both of you need to talk often and honestly with each other.

This means you have no reason to prohibit yourself to express your  frustrations, issues which relate to sexuality, anger, or respect between two people or even about the meaning of life, etc.

Since the beginning of your marriage, both of you had better learn to listen to the other and to remedy faults but to fight or argue  with each other. Argument or fighting is the behavior of children, but marriage is a relationship of adults.

2.2.Work together as a team

A happy marriage is on in which  two people strive to work together to solve problems in a better direction, no controversy for distribution who is wrong or right to be trapped in angers and non consent.

According to psychologists, when you friends/ acquantainces build a successful partnership, each of you will feel supported, and you also respect the other more. The same thing happens in marriage.When you find each other’s heartiness, the problem will be solved better and that makes both of you happy.

2.3.Understand each other on many levels

Maintain your relationships through multiple channels such as communication, sex, love, understanding each other and caring for each other, etc. The understanding in different aspects of life will help both of you to be close-knit and intimate to the other.

However, psychologists have confirmed one thing: nothing can ensure your relationship better than a great sexlife in which both of you understand and share your feelings to make each other happy.

2.4. Demonstrate a positive attitude

Focus on good things to maintain a healthy marriage. Always make yourself and your partner have a common sense of humor while not necessarily making things too serious. Express your interest in each other and supply your partner more fun to compensate for the difficult time and hard work.

2.5. Deal with conflicts:

In a marriage, it is hard to avoid making the other person unsatisfied. This may stem the from flaws and mistakes of one person or maybe from the differences in personality, or maybe each of you do not want to follow the other’s idea.

In this situation, understanding and forgiving the other are the best measures to regulate your relationship. Those are  the ways to adjust your mood which can help you to neutralize the tensions, contradictions or conflicts that may occur between the partners.

To  understand and sympathize the other, and  to always maintain a  peaceful family, you should patiently follow these principles when a conflict comes:

-Self-control: curb your temper and pride. Avoid hasty reaction that make the situation tenser.

- Have goodwill to solve the problem: Husband and wife should argue in order to find better things, to come to a compromise, not for the vanity of winning nor to humiliate the other, which makes you two split away from each other. While debating,  do not be too proud to obstinately back up your mistakes.

- Keep communicating: Know how to express and listen to the other. Do not force the other to absolutely obey your own ideas, but to listen and understand his/her opinions and point of views.

- Straighten the main target: limit the story within itself, do not repeat old stories to make it more terrible.

- Admit your mistake: Be courageous to accept your mistakes and try to amend.

- Healing, reconciling: After the controversy, the couples need to healthe pains immediately. Do not let the cold atmosphere or anger lasts for long that cause more suffering for the other and yourself.

- Find someone help you to mediate: select a reputable person who knows how to arbitrate rationally and understand both sides to give sincere advice to help the two partners to end the conflict.

- When your partner makes mistake:

Consider his/her mistake correctly: find the reason why he/ she made it. Everybody makes mistakes sometimes, so you  shouldn’t be upset about it but help him/her to deal with it.

If that is not his/her defective, he/she just did not agree with you, so let him/her be, and that will be okay. He/she has his/her own independent personality and thoughts, so why do you insist him/her to accept your ideas, since your ideas are not always right?

Find out the advantages of your spouse

Instead of being angry because of that shortcoming, just think in a positive way: how wonderful he/she often be. You also should remind yourself of sweet memories between you.

Be tolerant, altruism

Do not be nitpicky with complaining about all tiny things. Take it easy with an acceptable attitude. When your spouse gets upset, you shouldn’t take it too seriously nor take it to another  more negative problem. You have to know  how to release yourself. Think lightly. It is better to deal with difficulties rather than just look at the consequences forever.Your goal is to quickly regain quickly your psychological balance, calm down and solve the problem but to sink into confusion.